Christian Views on Marriage

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Topic: Give tips and advice on what you've learned maintaining a successful Christian marriage, include practical examples that will help newly-weds avoid pitfalls.

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Colin
Introduce your spouse to people as,

"This is "their name", my first husband (or wife)."

It usually get's a laugh, an elbow in the ribs, or both.

When your spouse asks if you are planning polygamy or divorce, reply,

"No dear just out-living you!"

I'm sure you've much less flippant advice to share...

Marcus
Communication is the lifeblood to any successful marriage, without it there we be all kinds of unnecessary misunderstandings and petty arguments.

Prayer: Praying and reading the Word together is the most important thing a married couple can do. Doing this together brings everything into proper perspective.

Lastly, I believe in giving each other allowances for making mistakes every now and then, with the understanding that we should be quick to forgive one another and move on.

Colin
It's essential for both the wife and husband to understand Biblical equality, and not get suckered into the bondage of what parades itself as 'submission teaching'. Men, and male theologians, have misused Bible verses for centuries to dominate women, effectively reducing them to a second-class redemption. This fuels frustration in the wife, and tempts the husband into snares he would avoid if he treated her as his equal in Christ. Dr. T.L. and Daisy Osborn's books and tapes are excellent on this, and Ken Hagin's The Woman Question is revelatory.

Share your advice on dealing with the most common areas of conflict, such as resolving disputes, raising kids, and finances.

Michelle
During thirteen years of marriage I've learned that I can't do the Holy Spirit's work in my husband. Trying to effect changes out of my own power is not only ineffective; it's damaging to the relationship. The most effective things I've done as a wife are to love God most of all, and put Him first in my life, to pray for my husband and myself, and to walk in mercy and forgiveness towards my spouse. I've found that when I do those things, the Lord does the rest.

Sonja
Being married for 32 years, I can say that communication between two people is very important. If you trust each other, and have faith in the Lord, all will fall into place. Love each other as the Lord loves you, and faith and trust will hold the love you have for each other.

I have believed in the man that God has sent me, not only as my soul-mate, but as the man I love forever.

Talk about your feelings for each other. Never let a day or night pass without saying you love each other. Respect the other's differences, and build your love with compassion and respect. If you do this, all will be taken care of. Love is a special gift from God.

Lynda - married 34 years,
Make God first priority in your life. Practice simple obedience to God. Be recklessly in love with your spouse and Jesus. Reckless in the way Mary was when she poured her alabaster jar of perfume on Jesus. (Mark 14:1) She was rebuked by the disciples, but Jesus told them she had done a beautiful thing. Live this kind of love by giving all you have to each other. The world may criticise you, but God will be delighted and He will honour you and your marriage.

Colin
The latest UK figures show that a one in two marriages ends in divorce within 12 years.

See Seven Foundations for a Happy Marriage and then come back here, tell me what I've missed, and have your say.

Raphiel
As a Christian man always communicate with your wife. Say 'Good morning' first, 'Good afternoon Honey' or 'Good-bye Honey' etc. Don't wait to be asked, be a proactive communicator.

Always share with her everything you do. Be open to your wife.

If you have kids, and bring something for them, have something for her too. Show her she is loved just as much.

Finally, pray for her always, share the Word with her, and make her feel she is loved. Encourage her in the Lord. Listen to her with respect, and apologise when you are wrong.

Oceanwaves
Thanks, Colin for endorsing the mutual submission found in the Bible. Your website is wonderful and has helped me in coming back fully to Christ.

Sara
So many people go into marriage thinking everything is 50:50. But in reality it has to be 100:100. There are going to be so many times when meeting each other half way just isn't going to cut it. Sometimes one of you is going to have to go the whole way. It won't always be fair, but you work it out later. Marriage is all about compromise, and if you are too stubborn, and set in your ways, you are going to run into some serious problems. The Bible calls us to serve one another. Not just for wives to be submissive, but to serve each other. Don't forget that!

News
The UK's Office for National Statistics (ONS) released figures showing the number of marriages has fallen to an all-time low. 150 years ago, for every single person, there were 27 married couples; now there are only 12. And for the first time ever, in post-Christian Britain, more marriages took place in registry offices rather than in a church building.

Myles
I have read through you seven views and they are good. My wife and I have will been married 40 years on Sept. 16th of 2007. Our marriage we consider to be in God's perfect will for our lives. The closer we have grown to Him the close our marriage has become.

We have learned that as a couple and individually that we have to be surrendered to His authority in our lives. We need to be obedient to Him in all matters of our lives and respond, when He convicts us about working through us to accomplish whatever He wants to through our life. Praise God! I thank Him daily for his Holy Spirit's guidance in my life everyday one day at a time.

Colin
An important word about Common Law Marriage.

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