Temptation & Sexual Sin
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Can't wait for sex
Q: I love my fiancée, and it's getting close to our wedding day. We have saved ourselves until after we're married, but I can't wait anymore. I can't sleep, I'm ready. It's not just for sex, I'm ready to be her husband. But, her mother has been with her since we've been engaged, and she wants us to wait until she moves into her own place before we do it, so she won't be in the house with us.
I understand, but my body doesn't. It's been ten months, and for the most part I have been fine until last month. She wants to marry me now, but it's her mother. What do I do, I can't take it anymore.
A: Cold baths, hard cycling, and garlic-anchovies, will cure your problem!
But seriously, get sanctified man; You're talking like a sinner.
A Spirit-filled Christian has more than enough power to overcome any sinful urges. 1 Co. 10:13.
When she, or he, fails to do so it is only because they chose to sin. Simple, no excuses; they chose sin over righteousness. 1 Co. 6:18, 2 Tim 2:22.
We overcome temptation by relying on the Spirit of God in us, and staying in step with Him.
That is how to discover the riches you have in Christ, and build confidence. Experience the victory; don't toy with temptation, then wallow in sin and failure. Eph. 5:3, Col. 3:5-7, Gal 5:16-26.
It matters. If you fail to control yourselves before you marry, Satan will ensure you have plenty of opportunity to go off the rails after you tie the nuptials.
Put another way; if she can't trust you with herself before you marry, she can't trust you with her seductive girlfriends after you are married, and vice versa.
Show that you are faithful to Christ, and each other, and build trust for your marriage. You will surely need it.
There's more you can do to help.
1) Start by covenanting together in prayer that you will both remain virgins until you are properly and legally married. Jesus is the Witness to your covenant. That's serious stuff.
2) Help each other to keep your integrity by spending more time apart, and having a chaperone when together.
3) Avoid the trigger factors: You know what they are.
4) It may help to self-impose some rules. ie. Never be alone together, not sitting next to each other, no kissing, hugging, etc. Ask the Lord to give you wisdom where to set the limit, and then keep to it. It's well worth the effort.
When you are serious about following Christ, you will discover it's even more fun than sex. (When you're doing it right!)
Shacking
Q: Is "shacking up" before marriage a sin?
A: Assuredly. Here's a detailed answer to the dangers of living together before marriage.
How to overcome sexual sin
Q: I keep falling into sexual sin, and then I feel terrible. What can I do?
A: We get quite a lot of questions relating to personal sexual sins of all types.
You know the sort of thing; teenagers struggling to overcome their addiction to pornography and compulsion to sin sexually.
They know that they are sinning, and want to stop, but repeatedly fail.
The answer to all of these people is the same.
Only a genuine walk with Christ, and truly depending on His Spirit, will set you free from your demonic bondage, and compulsions.
Christ leaves believers free to sin anytime, it is our choice, He doesn't want robots.
Our obedience to Him proves our love for Him is real. Jn. Ch. 15
He has also given us access to the power we need to overcome every temptation to sin. 1 Co. 10:13, Heb. 4:16.
That power comes initially when we receive Christ as Saviour, but we must be filled with the Spirit to be complete in Him. Acts Chs. 1-2.
This is most clearly seen when helping junkies off hard drugs.
There's no need to embarrass your pastor, because most of the tricky questions are answered here.
Some can get free by sheer human will-power, but often fall back into a drug dominated lifestyle.
But those who get the Power Baptism and remain filled, depending on the Spirit's power not their own natural power, they are the ones who remain free, and walk in victory.
So those tempted into sexual sins, should get saved, get Spirit-filled, repent, and avoid all stimuli that trigger the snare.
It's not that difficult when you love Him, and are busy doing His will; it is then that you discover true freedom, victory, and peace.
Read this: Before you divorce.
